Marriage emotional cheating

My husband has a panic disorder called agoraphobia. When started dating he didnt have it. We had a baby not long after being together and he used to put his family first before us the family that abused him. We had many issues but I stuck by him. Then when he finally realised what his family is like after a lot of abuse and things that were done then he developed the agoraphobia. We blocked his family. then he found a game he endulged in and basically used it to avoid his condition. He spoke to a girl on the game he said where friends lots of good morning messages and stuff when i have been asking for that attention from him then he stopped talking to her but he was still showing up for the game and people on there. He would be all ears and give them advice but not for me. He ejded upntelling her they cant talk anymore as he showed me the messages and inseen a lot of good mornngs hope you had a good sleep ect when he didnt speak to me as mhch as her. Then he started talking to another female and i found out he told her we wernt together and he had feelings for her and they flirted then she went on a date with someone and he got upset about it and he said he also sent her a pic of his penis but then felt what am I doing so deleted it. Then he changed it later on to him deleted it bevayse she didnt reply so he deleted it feeling rejected. We had a huge argument because while I understand hes going through a lot mentally and yes I have said in the past that I wish I could go back in time and not date you ect not all the time but I have said that out of pure hurt from him putting me last when I have been there for him every step of the way. He also told me he will delete everything and he did and deleted more than I thought. I went through his phone and questioned him a lot about things. Now im shocked becahse this is not the man I knew. At all. This was rhe LAST thing I thought he would do.

I dont know how I can get past it. I get hes struggled and been housebound for over a year but he hasnt done anytbing to try get better whoch out arguments where about and also arguments about connection and not getting his emotional side when other people are. Like even the men he made friends with hes allnesrs and eveb looked forna job for one of them to apppy for. He has had his first psychology session today so I have always hoped that when that happens he will heal and be the man that i met and had conversations about on the beach about where we see ourselves in 5 years. But ive come to realise he is all about words but his actions tell me otherwise.

Can this be overcome? I really dont know if i can get past the picture he sent and how he didnt even think of me at the time he even admitted he wasn’t thinking of me he had tunnel vision and self indulged. Im hurt maybe that’s an understatement im broken to be honest.