Parent disrespects kid, kid gets mad, parent says I have no right to be mad. Christmans is coming I dont wanna ruin it. I dont know whos fault it is but idek what to do anymore but just to straight up stop talking to them.

Before I start, I just wanna say that I posted this problem of mine on Reddit because I do not want advice from people who don’t have good morals and philosophies in life. I want advice from people who are religious and logical because that is how I live MY life.
I genuinely don’t wanna hang out with my dad anymore. He tries to be better, but he just can’t.
My mom bought me a Macbook for my birthday as a surprise a couple of years ago. I was pretty upset, and we got into a huge fight. I said I didn’t need it, and she said I did. I was mad because she could’ve spent the money on something better, and my parents thought I was being ungrateful.
To avoid this, I told my dad that I made a wish list. ( I didn’t want any gifts besides cash, but when push comes to shove, I might as well use the opportunity to buy something useful).
I told my dad a couple of the items I wanted, most costing about 85 dollars. I’m a freshman at college and struggled a bit adjusting through the months since my education was lacking in high school. I just took school seriously last year.. so I’m still learning the ways of studying smart.
My dad said that if I wanted these things, high grades were in exchange… I got ticked off. I raised my voice and asked, “Are you saying that my efforts weren’t worth it??? Your words hurt, fyi.”(granted, it sounds corny in English, but it sounded a lot more serious in my native language). He said I had no right to raise my voice and talk to him that way.
There are many moments of this. He has this narcissistic mindset cuz he’s a doctor, and an 18-year-old doesn’t know squat. There are many moments of this. He rubs it in my face when I’m wrong, tries to poke holes into everything I do, and just tries to make himself look so much better in front of me. I feel like he does this because he is intimidated. I’ve been starting to question and correct all his bullshit, and the fact that I trained in martial arts last for a year scared him.I don’t know if it’s abuse, but he has hit me, shouted at me, and cussed every single word I could’ve thought of ever since I could remember. I don’t act like this with other people.
I started to take an interest in this person whom I respect. We talked, and this person talked about how well she and her mom bonded. Me and my mom often fight because she doesn’t think and acts super immature. She is also a doctor and practically has the same mindset. She isn’t wrong cuz she is older. There is this constant issue we face where she always leaves the door open, and since the front of our house is a highway, our small dogs are at risk of being easily roadkilled.
I confronted her AGAIN and asked what if the dogs die? She said, “Awww, well, looks like that’s all the life God offered them.” Again, it ticked off. SHE HAD THE GUTS TO BLAME ALL OF IT ON GOD AND SAY THAT SHE HAS NO FAULT?? I CANT HELP TO FEEL LIKE MY MOM IS A DUMBASS??
Another reason why I don’t respect her is her hypocrisy. She doesn’t know squat abt Christianity but acts as she does. All cuz the AI people on TikTok tell her to… “Life is just happiness, so just avoid your problems.. be happy”. She leaves her problems for me to fix.. JUST LIKE THE DOGS.
couple days ago, I just woke up and asked where the dogs are.. she straight up ignores me. As she leaves the room i shout MAA. I just woke up and am now already pissed. I try to calm down for maybe 15 minutes just laying on my bed trying to suppress my anger. I suddenly just shout into the pillow and now i feel good enough to start helping her with the chores outside… this eventually leads to another fight.
She says im useless, have no use and conscience. I just go away and go to my room and remember that person whom I remember talking about how they be with their mom. I call my dad tell him that its so hard to be with my mom and cry.
Im not like this with other people. With them im known as the kind religious extroverted kid. But when im at home, im not proud of the person I become and I dont think its my fault.
Its almost christmas. I dont want to have a bad christmas. But I dont know what to do because all the anger keeps coming, all the grudges keep piling up and all of my patience keep getting tested. They wont talk, wont listen, the only way they could hear me is if I fight or cry. I wanna hurt, I wanna love but its all too difficult.