Religion/tongues

Ps..I figured oucohow to copy and paste so here it is again…sorry

2 of my siblings have became evangelist pretty much we grew up catholic for some background but they are reborn Christians, which is great but my issue is why do they do everything with people at there church than there own immediate family members for the holidays? I understand if we were trechous people but we are not i believe in Jesus christ myself just not as they think I should and therefore I feel almost shunned or looked down upon, but yet they will be astounded be people they know nothing about on you tube because there saying a testimony but when I say little things it’s like oh no we don’t believe you type feeling it’s absolutely bizarre to me and almost culty…I told my sister I’m not a fan of churches that speak in tongues half the service sweating n jumping around, she says she wouldn’t trust a church that didn’t speak in tongues 👀 and honestly the whole tongues debate really throws me…I wish I knew the real awnser to that….my sister says speaking in tongues can be a heavnly/only to Jesus talk and doesn’t need to be interpreted that there 2 different kinds…..I just don’t believe that God gave the gift of tongues to all these people in church’s humbling n jumbling when majority can understand the English? …anyway any thoughts ? Nothing judgemental please…