Please pray for my marriage and my health

My husband is verbally abusive, disrespectful, and inconsiderate. All I ask is that he clean up after himself, but he refuses. The garage and “his room” are absolute disasters. He leaves trash everywhere. I’m not a neat freak, but this is ridiculous. It would take more than you want to read too describe how bad it is. (I knew he wasnt real neat when we were dating, but it has gotten so, so much worse.) When I asked him earlier to please clean up something, he said he’ll do what he wants. The way he talks to me is often downright mean. He also swears and takes God’s name in vain even though he knows I hate it. He never did that in 6 years of dating. He clearly does not care how I feel about anything. It’s hard to not treat him the way he treats me, and I do lose my patience at times, but I know that would be wrong and wouldn’t do anything but cause fights. Honestly, I’d rather live alone than live like this, but I’m stuck.

I have had a chronic illness for 16 years and have been unable to work for 9 years now and I’m on disability, so I am dependent on his help to pay the bills. If I could just get well enough to work part time to cover his share of the bills, I could tell him to move out. (Not divorce, just live separately.)

The best solution would of course be for God to soften his heart toward me, but he would have to open his heart to God. We used to go to church together and according to what he’s told me, he used to go to church and Bible study every week. In the almost 10 years we’ve been married, he’s been to church with me once.

Please pray that one way or another God would intervene in this situation, and to give me strength to endure until he does. I don’t want to end up hating my husband. Thank you for your prayers.