How do I forgive?

I’ve been wronged a lot in my past, and while I’ve been told I have the right to be outwardly upset and angry, I’ve decided against it.

I was assaulted two years ago by a boy and it properly ruined my social life. I’d already had conflict with kids in the past but this was the worst of it. I broke things off with him and he proceeded to tell everyone that I raped him.

I had my number leaked, rumors started going around that I was a prostitute, and in the end I had to change schools to try to escape it.

At my new school I’ve done significantly better, but kids here have even heard the horrible rumors about me. Lots of kids understand what happened to me now due to the kid who assaulted me being accused of abuse by many partners he had after me. But I still can’t escape it.

But a good friend of the boy who assaulted me started going to my new school. They went here in the past briefly, and we only had one interaction.

They spilled a shake in the hallway and no one noticed them sitting in the middle of the hallway crying over it. The classrooms at my school have glass walls that let us see into the hallways, and I had the misfortune of witnessing the whole thing. After five minutes of watching this kid cry I gave up on ignoring it and offered them an extra soda I had to replace their shake. I then found someone who could open the janitors closet but a teacher saw me and insisted on cleaning up the spilled shake themselves. This kid thanked me and then never talked to me again.

They left the last month of school earlier this year, and then showed up to school again a few weeks ago. I’m not pleased with their return. And now they keep interacting with me.

My sister checked their Instagram account and this kid is still good friends with the kids who spread all the horrible rumors about me, and the boy who sexually assaulted me.

They sit next to me during our morning meetings, join in conversations between me and my friends, and I know it’s so small but it upsets me so much.

I don’t ever want this kid to think it’s okay to talk to me after what they’ve contributed to. I’ve talked to advisors and teachers and they’ve arranged to keep this kid away from me but it’s like this kid is unaware? I asked my friends and advisors to not mention me to the kid at all because the last thing I want is to be a topic in their friend group again.

Jesus treated all his enemies with love and kindness, but all the people I go to for advice just tell me to bluntly tell this kid to fuck off. I don’t wanna act so harshly though. I need some properly religiously fueled advice of sorts I think.