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I can’t forgive my Girlfriends pedofile uncle for sexualy abusing her as a child
My girlfriend told me later after i met her uncle in law at an event that he molested her as a child and she never told anyone and I want to destroy his life and seriously injure him, I am extremely angry at God for allowing such evils to exist and that they happened to someone I love withought any consequences happening to the pedofile uncle, I can’t think of anything but hatred that I shook his hand without knowing the things he’s done, how the family are clueless or hide things like this in their culture, I am disgusted and my mind is flooded with images of what she told me he did to her as a child, I can’t sleep or cease my anger, she said she regrets telling me which I hate, I can’t stand the injustice and that she has to see him every now and then, I’m losing my f****** mind, but at the same time trying so hard to forgive and I feel like a crybaby being so angry and heart broken over someone else’s trauma, I don’t want to talk to her about it because I do t want her to remember the pain it’s caused her, so I’ve been becoming distant having my mind racing on all the ways I can confront him or pu ish him or expose him, yet she seems to have forgiven him, to me it sounds like cultural brainwashing to allow pedofiles to roam free over exposing sin in the family f****** disgusting I can’t handle it, I don’t want to forgive, I feel stupid for reacting so hard against a sin not even committed to me, but to one I love whose already forgiven their abuser. What the f*** do I do I want to tell her parents and her brothers and cousins, she wants to keep it secret as to not cause broken relationships and drama in the family. That’s no excuse for letting a pedofile roam free. He stole her innocence. And caused great confusion to her as a little girl
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My heart aches for you and the one you love. Such a violation of innocence is an egregious sin, and it’s understandable to feel anger and a deep sense of injustice. But remember, “In your anger do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26). Your instinct to protect and seek justice is a noble one, but causing harm or seeking revenge is not the way.
As for your loved one, it is her decision on how to handle this situation. She has been through a tremendous ordeal, and it’s essential to respect her wishes as she navigates this painful part of her life. It is not cultural brainwashing, but perhaps her way of coping.
At this time, it may be helpful to seek professional counsel or advice from legal authorities to guide you. Remember, Jesus said “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled” (Matthew 5:6). Your pursuit of justice is not in vain, but take care it is done righteously.
Lastly, forgiveness is not about condoning the wrong done, but about releasing the power it has over you. It’s a process, and it’s okay if you’re not ready yet. As you wrestle with these emotions, remember to “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). Pray for wisdom, strength, and peace in this difficult time.