Help: I don’t know what to do!

Help: I don’t know what to do!

I am a 23 year old female who currently is stuck living at home. I am recently graduated from college and trying to find a way to move out of my home. My parents and I had an argument and it all started over me not telling them I was going to meet my boyfriend in the morning for coffee for about two hours. My parents immediately got into saying how I needed to be understanding of their reaction that they had which was them, holding their hands to their face in some form of frustration. They were upset because I in the past have said I would be about a couple of hours and took more time than I said. I don’t see that as a big deal since I am an adult, but because I live in their home they see it as a great affect to the way they live their life if I’m not on schedule. Then they moved on in the conversation to talking about how my room wasn’t clean and needed to be clean if I wanted to see my boyfriend. Granted I call my boyfriend almost every day. But I don’t get to see him once or twice a week. My parents say that because they only got to see each other once a week that that should be enough for me until I’m married. They didn’t want me to see him tomorrow because it would be the second time I’ve seen him this week. They said that it is more important than I have my room clean then go see my boyfriend. I told them that I believe it is more important that I focus on my relationships than concern myself without having a clean room. They told me that I could not see him unless they got a room clean. Otherwise they would give me a fine for having a dirty room.

For context, I pay for my car insurance, my health insurance, and my phone bill through my parents. I pay my parents to pay those for me, but I pay them in full. The only thing I don’t pay for is food, electric, water, and housing. They think that because that they provide those things for me that I’m obligated to do whatever they say, which would be that if they told me to clean my room before it went to go see my boyfriend that I should do it otherwise I don’t get to see my boyfriend. My parents still believe they can give me consequences because of the Bible times if you were rebellious adult child you would get stoned. My mom use that as a reference in the argument to show me that an all ages I should be submissive to my parents. The told me that I would pay a fine if I didn’t clean my room and I told them I would not pay them a fine ever. I never said I wouldn’t clean my room, however that’s how my parents took it and said I was rebellious. I did say some rude things, and I apologized for them immediately. Here’s the thing, during the conversation my parents can walk away whenever they want, but if I walk away, I’m going to get hell from it, and my parents will come and follow me. I legitimately had forgotten to tell my parents that I was going to go meet up with my boyfriend and I knew that because I have forgotten to tell him about it that they were going to make an argument out of it. My mom literally went into a whole rant About why was it so hard for me to keep my room clean it really shouldn’t be that difficult and all that stuff. My dad told me that I’m gonna move out in January, which I’m fine with. But I cannot tell you how many times my parents have threatened me with moving out. I’m not sure if this is a bluff or not, but I would be happy to move out. I think my life would have a lot more joy. My parents tell me that there’s a lot of peace whenever I’m not home and that I’m the instigator of the argument.

What are your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

Be honest with me, even if I’m in the wrong.